men are bullshit

Break-ups are something we all go through at some point. They are a necessary evil of the single girl's life, so why when we get broken up with, are we so absolutely shocked and broken?

When we get dumped by someone we cared about, it seems like the end of the world. The sun seems dimmer, external noises fade into background noise, and friends do their best to convince you that "its for the best." If it's for the best then why does it feel so awful? And why do we justify away painful break-ups by saying that we'll find someone "better" soon? If we hadn't thought that person was great, we wouldn't have been with them in the first place. What is the point of being with someone if you think you could do better the minute things get tough?

Friends and family can only tell us what they think we need to hear during these break-up times. "It'll be OK," "You'll find someone better," "This is for the best," "You'll feel better in a few days." But how often do these things actually mend a broken heart? They are temporary band aids designed by each of us to cover up what is bubbling under the surface - pain, humiliation, anger, hurt, resent, regret....

We, as women, validate our lives through the acceptence of a man. Instead of looking inside and finding a place to be happy with our individual opinions and feelings about who we are, there are days when we just need a man to tell us we're beautiful or amazing. Why can't I tell myself that I'm beautiful and amazing and feel the same thing?

I guess I misjudged my last relationship. I thought this person was kind and thoughtful and patient. I thought he cared about me and was willing to be in a relationship but, as it turns out, he wasn't ready for the challenges of a relationship at all.

The walls have already been rebuilt and they are twice as strong as they were before he came along and demolished what I had worked so hard to protect - my heart.